:: FEAR or FAILURE?
July 11, 2009
It is important to be open to the possibility of change. We all have tremendous potential for joy in our lives. It is also important to occasionally take inventory of our fears. What is it we fear? It is often something very vague and non-specific. All too often our greastest fear is either of what might be or what might have been. Upon honest examination, we find that we are afraid of being afraid or we are afraid of failing! This keeps us from attempting to do those things in our lives that would bring us great joy and fulfillment. I don't believe in failure. When what we have attempted to do does not work, that is not failure, that is FEEDBACK! We then have additional knowledge as to what doesn't work. We can then try something different.
I enjoy helping people with life's challenges! We always have the right to choose how we live our lives. I believe that CHOICE is when you can think on purpose, not when you're a victim of your thoughts!
The only way we can fail in our lives is to quit trying!
The only way we can fail in our lives is to quit trying!
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Dialogue on Fear and Reality
This is a powerful mental construct that prevents us from being creative, happy and successful.
The world as it appears to us, is largely the result of the "egoic mind " with the unavoidable consequence of fear produced by separation.
It produces a sense of lack and scarcity.
It resides in the realm of time. A mental construct that helps us understand the changes in our environment. It is about a tyranny of an imagined past and/or ones anxieties produced by an anticipated future event. Not knowing what is going to happen. The ego is very convincing when it comes to promising salvation in the future. If there is salvation it can only be in the now.
In fact true salvation is freedom from compulsive thinking and negativity. And above all, from past and future as a psychological need. As you know a psychological need is the psychological need to identify with the past for your identity. Presence is the reality that dissolves the illusion of the past, and the future.
Our job and purpose is to point to where enlightment can be enabled. Enlightment, consciously chosen means to reliquish your attachment to past and future and to make the Now the main focus of your Life.
You re-member, "We Move in The Direction of The Dominant Thought"?
The incessant mental noise of thinking prevents you from finding that realm of inner stillness that is inseparable from Being.
That stillnes can be defined as a cosmic, non-local field and energy and information that whispers to you in the silence between your thoughts. And through our five senses It converts this cosmic non-local energy into a limited physical reality.
This is what I have experienced in most of my relationships: Most of us at some time or another have become emotionally reactive when certian situations trigger a reaction. Then, an emotional complex from the past is brought up and captures your attention. (you become it!)
They are compulsives patterns of mind. Or, we are a bundled set of conditioned responses. Where is the freedom in that?
Whenever I stop and pause, (and I am grateful for this "space") and I reflect on: Am I a conscious volitional being? I suddenly realize I could not ask that question unless I was, for that moment.
Something remains un-affected by all the transient circumstances in our life situation and that is who we are.
To contrast this moment of consciousness, stop and think about all the discussions, or dialogue you have been exposed to that center around guilt, pride, resentment, anger, regret or self pity. Is this not about re-inforcing a false sense of self and helping to accellerate the body's aging process by creating and accumulating more past in your psyche?
Our purpose is to be a light in the darkness when we forget who we are. When that happens, there is confusion and fear. A sense of separation and fear. Nothing that could happen in the future could be better than this moment. The Buddha said: If you know who you are, then, I will follow you. If you do not know who you are, then, you will follow me.
If you want to be creative, then, oscillate between mind and no-mind. The ego can only project.
Until our next encounter,
Respectfully,
George Maris, CSRC
George Maris - Life Coach Center - "We Move In The Direction Of The Dominant Thought" Remember that you always get what you know. If all of what you know is what you don't want, then you will always get more of the same.